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Temple of the Magdalene Priestess Training Program
Format:  50 weeks of coursework plus 5 one-on-one sessions with Lauri Ann Lumby,OM, OPM, MATS, course creator and facilitator:


Through the Magdalene Priestess Training, we hope to restore women to their rightful place within Jesus’ vision for humanity as empowered individuals fully living out both their Divine and Human natures as love.  The Magdalene Priestess Training continues the work of the Magdalene/Christ by empowering you to live out the fullness of your unique giftedness – both for the sake of your own fulfillment and in service to the betterment of the world.

Magdalene Priestess Training may be completed in 52 weeks (or at your pace) and includes 50 weeks of coursework plus 5 one-on-one sessions with Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, OPM,MATS, course creator and facilitator.

Included Coursework (if you have taken any of these courses, contact Lauri to have your course fee applied):

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The Complicit Feminine – Owning Our Own Unholiness

As the veils continue to fall, unmasking the unholy masculine as it has been present within our world (especially as it has been expressed through sexual violence against women and children), we would be remiss if we did not also acknowledge the unholy feminine and the damage it has done to all of us – male and female alike.

As I said in my blog on Thursday, women are not innocent. Yes, as it is true for men, the vast majority of women are kind, thoughtful, generous, and compassionate; and couldn’t think of doing harm to another human being – especially the men in their lives.  But then, there are those women.  We all know them, and perhaps we have (wittingly or unwittingly) been them ourselves:

  • Women who use their sensuality, charm, sexuality to manipulate and control men.
  • Women who marry men for money or because of the position of power he is in.
  • Women who brow-beat, nag, whine, and abuse their male partners, projecting their own unhealed wounds onto the men in their lives, blaming them for all that ails them instead of taking responsibility for their own sh.t!
  • Women who trap men into unplanned pregnancies and then extort money, support, etc. from these men.
  • Women who lie, cheat, are unfaithful and steal from the men in their lives.
  • Women who destroy men financially, emotionally, even sexually.
  • Women who use others for their own gain and then cast them away when they are finished with them.

Like the symptoms of the unholy masculine, the symptoms of the complicit feminine go on and on and on.  As much as our culture has been harmed by the unholy masculine, so too has it been harmed by the unholy feminine. This is further complicated by the unfortunate ways that we as women have done harm to each other.  We are our own worst enemies when we criticize, condemn and demean each other for being too fat, too flat, too tall, too smart, too independent, too successful, or the opposite – too pretty, too skinny, too short, too dumb, too needy, too lazy, etc.   Have you seen the movie Mean Girls?  It pretty much sums up the collateral damage we have done to each other.  Why?  Because we are insecure in who we are and in order to feel better about ourselves we have to make each other feel like crap.  UGH!

As the saying goes, before we point out the splinter in our brother’s eye, we first have to remove the plank from our own.  As women we need to recognize where we have engaged in the unholy aspects of womanhood and do the difficult work of healing the inner wounds and unacknowledged fears that have caused us to act in non-loving ways – toward ourselves and then toward others.  Only then can we begin to bridge the gap between ourselves and the men out there who are truly ready and worthy of our greatness.

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ZERO Tolerance – what is wrong now WAS wrong then!

As the news began to pour in over the allegations of sexual misconduct by Matt Lauer and then Garrison Keillor, social media just as quickly filled with questions of disbelief.  I agree that we should all be innocent until proven guilty….but what I found to be most disturbing were the statements defending two “great men” who could not possibly have done what they were accused of.  Comments like, “well, if this is something that happened 10 years ago and is just surfacing now….maybe it isn’t so bad…or “so what if it was just a little tap on the ass….boys will be boys…”  I found myself dumbfounded by the comments seeming to defend or question the allegations brought forth against these men because 1) they seemed so nice, 2) everybody loves them, and 3) what we think of as wrong now wasn’t wrong then…..

Or was it?

What we think of as wrong now (sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, inappropriate touch, sexual assault, rape) was wrong then…..we were simply too afraid or too ashamed to say or do anything about it.

Like when I suffered sexual assault in college.  I never told anyone because 1) I was sure it was my fault in some way (isn’t that what we’ve been taught), 2) I was afraid, 3) I was ashamed. 4) I knew that with the rape culture at the University of Iowa being what it was in 1983, no one would do anything about it anyway and 5) Because I certainly didn’t want to go on trial.

I suspect the reasons I chose not to speak are the same for every single woman, child and man who has been sexually harassed, assaulted or raped and chose not to tell. Or maybe they did and were told, “Shhhhh….that’s just how Uncle Larry is. Forget about it and move on.”  Or “Boys will be boys.”  Or, “We don’t tell the family secret.” Or “But Father Henry is such a nice man.” Or “It must have been something you were wearing.” Or “Maybe you shouldn’t have drunk so much death punch…..”  Etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.  Followed closely by….NOTHING BEING DONE… except more shame heaped upon the victim.

I will say it again:  what we consider to be wrong now was wrong then and has been wrong throughout history.  Unless we are a sociopath, our deep inner sense of right and wrong tells us this is true.  It has never been right or appropriate for ANYONE to treat another human being as a sex object to be used for their own pleasure, most especially when the user is in a position of power or authority – no matter how much your parents, drill sergeant, football coach, boss or friends told you it was alright!  NEVER! Yes, we can deny the truth away all we want, or try to justify it because of the culture we are/were living in, but abusing another human being has never, ever, ever been right. PERIOD!

And it certainly doesn’t’ matter how many years have passed since the incident happened.  The victim is still suffering. It doesn’t matter how many years has passed since Father Henry made an altar boy perform fellatio on him, or when Matt Lauer acted in sexually inappropriate ways with female colleagues, assistants, fans; or when Donald Trump spoke in demeaning, sexual ways toward women……it was still wrong and it is appropriate that it should come to light and they be held accountable for what they have done. This is called justice. (Yes, there is a place for healing and forgiveness in all this….but for that to take place, the perpetrator needs to acknowledge their wrongdoing, make amends and do the hard work of healing whatever is unhealed within them that would cause them to inflict harm upon another in the first place.)

I also don’t buy the “but he seemed so nice” defense.  What the hell do we know about media-made, so-called celebrities?  THEY ARE ACTING!  Not only that but as is true for all of us, we tend to put our best face forward.  Just think of Bill Cosby, Bill Clinton, John F. Kennedy…..men in the spotlight who everyone thought was “so nice” when in fact they were men in positions of power who used their power to manipulate and use women for their sexual pleasure.  I don’t care how nice they are in every other circle of their life…if they have used women in this way, it is wrong.  PERIOD.

Before we move toward defending those accused of sexual misconduct….think for a moment of what it is like for the women (men, children) who are the recipients of these unwanted sexual advances…..as one who has been there, this is what it is like…..

Every time a man (or it could just as likely be a woman) makes an inappropriate gesture, touches us without our consent in a sexual or sexually suggestive way, uses sexual or demeaning words to describe us or speak to us, pats our butt, grabs our breast, thrusts their pelvis toward us, grinds up on our leg, grabs our hand and places it on his sexual area, etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. a tiny little part of us shrivels up and dies.  A part of our soul recoils in disgust and then shame.  Because of the way in which our culture has normalized these behaviors we think we can’t say or do anything about it….and if we do say or do something about it, it is likely someone will roll their eyes at us or accuse us of “being too sensitive” or “not taking a joke.”  But every time we remain silent, we lose a little more of our power until eventually there is nothing left.

This is why we can no longer remain silent and why we must call for zero tolerance in matters of sexual misconduct or violence….and this goes as much for the women as it goes for the men.  Sadly women are not innocent in this.  For every man who uses a woman as a sex object there is a woman who uses her sexuality to manipulate and control men.  This also is wrong.  And that my friends, is a topic for another blog….

 

 

 

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A Man Speaking Truth

A HUGE Thank you to Bob Russo, a loyal reader of this blog in whom I have found a kindred spirit and spiritual brother and friend. Below is Bob’s beautifully articulated response to my recent blogs inviting the men to speak to the ongoing question of gender roles and how we understand the flow of the masculine and feminine within us.  Bob beautifully speaks what I could only hope to have the words to say.  THANK YOU BOB!  Following Bob’s words is my own response (warning:  transparency and feeling alert):

From Bob:

Hi Lauri,

I have been meaning to respond to your article on “Inviting Men to Join Us”. So, it feels good to finally get around to it. I tried to post this on your blog but was unable to. Hope you had a relaxing Thanksgiving.

My response may come across as “politically incorrect”. But, my intention is not to be insensitive to anyone but speak from my heart. And, I don’t claim that what I am about to write is correct – but only as I have perceived things over the years.

IMO, both the feminine and male energies are being compromised by the current attitude that exists in America. The women’s movement in the early 1970s was an effort by women to gain recognition for the gifts they have and can contribute in a male-dominated society. It was a comprehensive effort by women to gain the recognition and equality as human beings that they deserve, and an effort to assert control over their own lives.

Unfortunately, this movement encouraged women to become more “masculine” in order to be accepted in a “man’s” world. And in so doing, many of the graceful feminine qualities that are uniquely part of a woman’s makeup have been significantly discounted. Some of the qualities that I am referring to are motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on. I’m not saying that these qualities are only in women, no. But, it is my belief that they are more pronounced in women than men.

Regarding men, the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on. Again, most women share many of these qualities with men. But IMO, they are more naturally a part of a man’s makeup than a woman’s.

We are witnessing a breakdown of both the masculine and feminine energy in our society, and consequently a major collapse of the family unit. Women are no longer honored for being mothers or care givers, for example, but are given high strokes when they are CEOs of a large firm or working 12 hours a day along-side their male co-workers. And, men are no longer praised for being good providers and consistent in their lives but given strokes for being more feminine and passive, or at the opposite extreme, for being aggressive and survivors of war. No wonder we’re so confused and messed up. We can only deny our inherent nature for so long.

As you know, each of us is comprised of both feminine and male qualities. It is this integration that make us the unique person we are. We become a fully-functioning man or woman when these qualities exist within us in a balanced way. As a man, I need to know when to hit the gas or put on the brakes. My long-term vision in combination with my wife’s intuition have provided us with a reliable road map during our marriage. When the natural qualities of both sexes work together, good things happen. It’s that simple! But, when they are out-of-balance or one dominates the other, like we are witnessing today, suffering and war result.

Bob Russo

 

My response:

Bob, YES YES YES YES YES!  You eloquently articulate the feelings that are living in my heart, that have been part of my own lived experience and exist in my deep inner knowing.  Thank you for speaking what I could not find the words to express.  This is one of the many reasons I appreciate your presence so much in my life!  Thank you!

As for being “politically incorrect,” the world in which we are currently living is humanly incorrect and our politics simply support this incorrectness.  Our job as prophets is to shine the light on what is no longer working so that something new may come into being.  We need to speak our truth for this to occur….so speak away!!!!!!  (Besides, I don’t find your words to be politically incorrect in the least, in fact they reflect a politic we SHOULD be embracing – IMO).

At the risk of being “politically incorrect” myself, I want to speak to what you wrote from my own lived experience.  When you speak of the devaluing of what have traditionally been considered the inherent gifts and calling of women, I agree there seems to be a correlation of this devaluing to the women’s movement.  I have often said that while the women’s movement was necessary (critical, in fact), there has been a damaging effect on both women and men because of it – for exactly the reasons you stated.  In my own lived experience, I have really struggled with this.  My deepest drive is to love, nurture, care for, heal, support, build connections, teach and form – tasks we traditionally associate with the feminine.  I have lived this out professionally and most joyfully in my role as a mother.  But NEVER have these gifts been valued. Neither have the masculine traits that reside within me.

First, we live in a culture that doesn’t value the work I do.  I have been expected to do this work for free and criticized for daring to charge for the services “their priest gives them for free.” Because of the structure of our society, most people don’t see value in the inner work of coming to know themselves.  Instead they would rather spend their money on things.  When in the Church I was condemned for daring to think for myself, stand up for my truth and for not being silent and obedient (the expected feminine role).  In my marriage none of what I did in my role as mother, running a household, managing two businesses, taking care of the details of medical appointments, bookkeeping, etc. etc. etc. was valued – it was simply assumed that I would and should do it because it was my job as “the wife.”  When I asked for help I was told, “It doesn’t bother me.  If it bothers you, you do it.” While doing all of this I was also expected to be provider but the work I did outside of the home wasn’t a “real job,” and therefore had no value and neither did the money I brought home from that job.  To say that I felt resentment for not being valued would be an understatement. (I have a deep scar on my forehead showing the effects of resentment not tended to.)  Now as a divorced, single, working mother of two, I find I have to do all of it and quite frankly I am frickin EXHAUSTED.  I am finding I can’t do it all and I don’t want to do it all!!!!!

I know I am not alone in this.  The current structure of our society does not value the inherently feminine as you so eloquently described:  motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on.  Neither does our culture seem to value the masculine as it resides within women.  As a woman, I long for the feminine and for the traditionally masculine qualities I embody (courage, strength, risk taking, independence, etc.) to be valued.  At the same time, having to take on too much of the masculine qualities (provision, protection, etc.) is killing me.  It works against my nature.  It has caused me harm.  When I am too much in the driving, striving, trying to succeed mode, I become ill.  So I find myself stuck between a rock and a hard place – longing to fulfill the feminine longings within me while exercising meaningful and fulfilling work in a healthy and balanced way that does not do harm to myself, while trying to provide for myself and my children.  UGH!  The cost of caring for myself in a disasterously dysfunctional and imbalanced world has been staggering.

And I feel for the men – for exactly the reasons you stated:

the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on.

I have also seen the demonization of what we have been conditioned to think of as feminine in men – nurturing, caring, giving, healing, intuitive, etc.  I believe this demonizing has done great harm to men and caused them to ignore or suppress these traits as they find them within themselves.  I have seen the inner struggle this creates in men, especially in those who have been raised to be “manly men.”  This makes me sad.  We are clearly in need of a cultural overhaul…the likes of which we have never known!

As much as our culture wants us to believe we can and should be able to do it on our own…..WE CANNOT.  As much as our culture says that women and men should be able to do the same things and be equal in them, we cannot if we want to be healthy.  Looking at the current state of our culture we are anything but healthy.  We are doing a terrible disservice to ourselves and to each other in the values we have embraced as a culture and quite frankly, it is killing us.  Something’s got to give!

Or rather, everything’s got to give!  Every single way in which we have defined ourselves as a culture is currently up for evaluation – IMO, especially how we know ourselves.  I believe that in order to arrive at a healthier balance within our culture we first have to come to know ourselves.  As it relates to the masculine and feminine we need to come to know how those qualities are present within us and how those qualities are helping or harming us.  In order to do this we need to be REALLY HONEST with ourselves.  Are we (male or female) called to be provider and protector?  Are we (male or female) called to receive, allow, nurture, etc?  How are we called to do these things in a way that is healthy and supportive for ourselves and for those around us?  In this, it is not about male or female, masculine or feminine, it is about understanding what is unique within us as human beings, owning and valuing it…..both for ourselves and for others.  Maybe in doing this for ourselves we will begin to see the transformation in our culture that many of us long for.  And Oh My God…on some days it is sooo hard trying to live ahead of the curve.  😉

I know this doesn’t even scratch the tip of the iceberg of the healing we need in our culture and in our world……and THANK YOU Bob for your beautiful contribution to this conversation.  As ever it is unfolding.

 

Love,

Lauri

 

 

 

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Supporting the Mission of Love

The mission of the Temple of the Magdalene Mystery School and Authentic Freedom Academy is the same:  providing resources, guidance and tools which support women and men in becoming fully self-actualized – discovering the uniquely creative way in which they have been gifted to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in their life and through which they are compelled to serve the betterment of the world.  In short, our mission is LOVE.  Turning our world from fear into love….which is an inside job starting with us.

If you have enjoyed the many resources available through Authentic Freedom Academy or Temple of the Magdalene Mystery School, including our many FREE offerings and would like to show your gratitude for what you have received, consider making a financial donation.  The monies received will support our continuing mission.

Donate HERE.  

Thank you.

Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, OPM, MATS

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Finding a New Language in the Non-Dual World

Yesterday I received the following response to my recent blog, Inviting the Men to Join Us.  First of all I want to thank Shakur for offering these insights.  They could not be more perfectly timed.  Please read Shakur’s insights below, followed by my response.

Lauri, I really appreciate the call for men and women to join together and create the world that we wish to live in and the work you are doing to help more femininity blossom in our world. As a man who has been deeply involved in spiritual pursuits over the last decade and someone who tends to appreciate feminine traits more than most men I have met, I also appreciate the acknowledgement that the systems we have been living in affect both men and women.

However, I struggle with the dichotomy you seem to be creating, which I think many others do as well, in defining some traits and behaviors as holy or divine and therefore others as unholy and toxic. I think the frequency with which we, especially those involved in spiritual community, divide while calling people together is counterproductive. From what I can see in doing so we are just changing the divide from men vs women to holy people vs unholy people. And from what I have seen there are many traits and behaviors that some would label as unholy / toxic masculinity that others would consider holy. When a man (or a woman for that matter) seeks to preserve their culture, defend their family, believes that competition leads to excellence and is desirable, I often see those in spiritual communities or in progressive communities denounce and judge them. And I believe that act of judgement is counterproductive as it tends to generate anger and shame on both sides, and as I said just changes the dividing line instead of diminishing it.

I believe that if we want more peace we are going to need to accept that there are many views of what is holy, that as Jesus said we will be surprised to see who is sitting at his table, and we will need to be ok with disagreeing about those things and allow each other the ability to choose different ways of living. I say this trusting that we can be one and yet be many, while understanding it doesn’t mean it will be easy. I say this in the belief that accepting these differences will allow those of us who do wish to create the union of masculine and feminine, and that share a similar viewpoint about what that would look like, can focus our energies on coming together and creating that which we wish to see in the world without being distracted by the effort to coerce anyone else into living the way we want to. And honestly, I think if we did that and created places where what you describe as the divine feminine and masculine come together and support one another that many people who would not have thought they would want that will come to see the beauty in it.

I hesitate to post this because I am concerned it will come across as combative and my views on this won’t be popular, but I offer them in the hope that we can have some dialogue about it and have the chance to broaden my way of thinking as well.
– shakur

Shakur, I cannot thank you enough for sharing your thoughts and concerns.  You are absolutely right on every point.  I don’t find your sharing combative in the least.  Instead, I find it compelling.  There are a million thoughts I have in regards to your sharing, and I think the bottom line is that our language is failing us.  Even in writing my most recent posts on what I am calling the “Holy Masculine,” I found myself struggling to find appropriate words.  There are no words in my native tongue that truly describe what I am feeling in my heart and in my soul – a longing for union – where as a species we can come together in celebration of what is holy and sacred and unique and magnificent in each of us while also celebrating the things within us that make us human – insecurities, fears, unhealed wounds, illness, disease, etc.  And yes, what one person considers holy another might judge as profane.  And yet, I believe we are being called into an even greater expression of our humanness where we might begin to move beyond judgment toward loving compassion.  And yet, our language has no words for this.  Instead we are stuck with the inherent dualism of the English language where everything is either/or, black or white/ right or wrong/ male or female/ etc. etc. etc.

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Shakur, the phoenix I see rising out of your beautiful words is the idea that as we move through this evolution in consciousness, we need to move beyond the words we use to separate – male/female, masculine/feminine, holy/unholy, and find something new. What is beautiful about this is that as the English language is inherently dualistic and there are few words for the fluid movement within unity, we will have to work together to find/create a new language.  Shakur, perhaps this is part of your calling….to help us find a new language that more closely describes a humanity that is one in celebrating diversity and where we are all empowered to find our own unique expression of our personhood.  My sense is that this will be an ongoing conversation as we find our way and our place in this new world we are creating.  Shakur, thank you for the amazing gifts and insights you bring to this co-creation!!!!

 

Love,

Lauri

 

 

 

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Magdalene Priestess Training Testimonials

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A huge thank you to the amazing women who I have the privilege of supporting in their journey of self-actualization through the Magdalene Priestess Training!  

Honouring and living in the energy of the Divine Feminine is what many women (and men) seek these days.  This is certainly what I was looking for when I came across Lauri’s website and her course on training to be a Magdalene Priestess.  I particularly wanted to learn more about the Mary portrayed in the Bible, but without the religious dogma. 

And this is where Lauri has presented a series of workshops that have captivated me for the last 8 months.  It is a safe environment where I can release my internal struggles whilst Lauri supports and guides me with compassion and a deep knowing of exactly what I need on my journey to becoming an enlightenment woman and Priestess.

 Mary H, New Zealand

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Celebrating the Divine Masculine

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Recently, there has been a lot of negative press hurled against our men.  While it is appropriate to call out men who use fear, power, control, their position of privilege, status or authority to manipulate, control, demean, devalue or abuse another; not all men are guilty.  It is likely that many more of the men we know are “good men” who are deeply caring and compassion and who try to treat all human beings with honor and respect. I have the distinct honor of knowing many of these men.

I was reminded of this truth last night after finishing a luxurious and deeply fulfilling two hour conversation with one of the men who has provided for me an example of what the Divine Masculine looks like.  He is a man approaching 50 who knows himself, and who unapologetically lives as the person he knows himself to be.  While deeply sensitive…

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Wrestling Satan

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Confronting that which tempts us away from our original nature of peace.

As much as I believe that Jesus came to realize the truth of Oneness and then sought to teach this to his disciples, including Mary Magdalene who went on to establish her own mystery school teaching the way to love; I am reminded today of the value of perceived separation – especially when it comes to those things outside of us which seek to keep us from the path of our truth.

Satan, meaning adversary, is the representation and embodiment of all that wants to keep us from our original nature as One in love – whether we perceive it as within us or outside of us.

Outside of us, Satan shows up in:

  • Societal expectations.
  • Tribal customs and rules.
  • Worldly ideals which place value on externals – money, power, status, fame, material possessions, etc. etc. etc…

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Inviting the Men to Join Us

Yesterday I wrote an article about Feminine Rage and the injustices that have been done to women at the hands of the current structure of our world which is rooted in fear, power and control.  While yesterday’s blog spoke on behalf of women, today I speak to (and hopefully for) the men.

Men, if you are not angered over the injustices that our world has heaped upon women (people of color, the disenfranchised, the sick, the poor, the elderly, etc.) then you should be. If not for the women, then you should be angry for your own sake. Because as much as women have suffered under the hands of a culture rooted in fear, power and control, so have you.  If you don’t believe me, ask yourself a few questions:

  • Where and how have you felt supported for your sensitive, vulnerable side?
  • Where have you been forbidden (or condemned) for expressing tender emotions – fear, sorrow, anxiety, love?
  • Where have you run from intimacy, fearing the vulnerability that comes with it?
  • Where have you been told to “stop crying,” or “boys don’t cry?”
  • Where have you been forced into situations of competition, violence, bullying and how did these experiences cause you discomfort?
  • How do you feel about picking up a gun and going off to war?
  • How do you feel about putting a gun in your son’s hand and sending him off to war?
  • Where do you feel pressure to drive, strive, succeed, achieve, and where do you feel as if your only value is based on how much money you make, what kind of car your drive or what neighborhood you live in?
  • Where have you been supported in exploring/cultivating your creative yearnings? Where have you been told, when entertaining your creative dreams, “There’s no money in that….”
  • Where have you experienced support and a vehicle for expressing all the inner areas of conflict within yourself?
  • Where have you been molested, assaulted, taken advantage of by one in a perceived position of power over you?

My dear, sweet men, you have a right to be angry about all the places in your life where you have been denied or felt as if you had to suppress your truth. The hierarchical/patriarchal/consumeristic/capitalistic world has done you as much harm as it has done to us – maybe more. As much as you have been told to “be tough,” “keep a stiff upper lip,” “be courageous and strong,” and that your value is dependent on what you have achieved (as it is measured in the terms of our society), this is not the whole of what it means to be a man.  While the Holy Masculine is about provision, protection, action and support, in order to experience wholeness, one also needs to experience the feeling of being supported, protected and provided for……and this is the role of the Divine Feminine.  This is the Holy Balance that our Creator intended and what we all long to experience in our world – if we are truly honest with ourselves and about the deepest longing in our hearts.

Men, this is what we as women long to be for you – the Divine Feminine to your Holy Masculine. As women, we have the potential for creating the space in which you might feel safe to lay down your sword and set aside your armor.  Where you are supported in feeling and expressing fear; where you are honored for your strength and your vulnerability.  Where you are uplifted, nourished, nurtured and restored so that you might go back out into the world to do the work you came here to do.  And while we do this for you, we long for you to do the same for us.

We are in this together….but we live in a world that seems to have forgotten this. Instead, we live in a world that has pitted men against women and women against men….and sadly, this is a world of our own making – not directly, but due to thousands of years of conditioning, and we are complicit in allowing it to continue.  Men are guilty for enjoying the benefits of male privilege, and women are guilty for allowing it while enjoying the benefits of powerlessness.  BUT it doesn’t need to be this way.  We have the power to change this, but we can only make this change TOGETHER.  Women acting alone cannot bring about a new paradigm of human partnership and collaboration without the men acting right here beside us.

So my dear sweet men, I offer you a question, an invitation and a question:

The Question:  What kind of world do you want to live in? One rooted in the Unholy Masculine defined by fear, power and control or one rooted in the Holy which honors and uplifts the unique giftedness among all human beings and draws from those gifts?

The Invitation:  If the world you would like to live in is not the world you are living in now, what would you like to do about it?

The Question: If you feel called to a more Holy expression of our world, who are the women you would like to stand beside in bringing this about?

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