The purpose of a midlife crisis, perimenopause and menopause (from a spiritual perspective) is to move us beyond childbearing to birthing ourselves…and this is as true for men as it is for women. During midlife and menopause, we are invited to leave behind the life we have known to make room for the new life that is trying to be born through us. In birthing our new selves, we are birthing our Soul – the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment in our lives and the way in which we find fulfillment by contributing to the betterment of our world. Yesterday, we talked about the midlife crisis or awakening that heralds the midlife journey (which includes menopause). Today we will begin the process of exploring the many aspects of midlife by revisiting the past.
What to Expect in Midlife and Menopause – Revisiting the past
After the midlife crisis, the awakening that heralds the midlife journey (including perimenopause and menopause), our past comes back to haunt us. In order to make room for the new life that seeks to be born through midlife, we have to make peace with our past. Specifically, we are invited to find healing and release for any unhealed wounds from childhood, ungrieved losses, failures and disappointments, unacknowledged hurts and childhood fears. We are also invited to let go of any resentments, betrayals, deceits that we are still clinging to and find room in our hearts for forgiveness and therefore release. During the midlife transition, we are also forced to take a good hard look in the mirror and examine all the places where we may have intentionally or unintentionally hurt another human being. We are invited to examine all the places in our lives where we have acted in less than loving ways, where we have lied to or cheated another. Where we have hurt another through our angry outbursts or prideful self-righteousness. Embarking on the midlife journey is kind of like dying and spending a few years in purgatory, examining all the ways in which we have been wounded and all the ways in which we have been the one to cause harm, and then we are invited to find healing and release from all this debris. Once we have burned through the pain and the sorrow there is more room within us for humility and compassion – the soil in which the seeds of our new life will be planted, take root and grow. But first, we have to be willing to confront and make peace with our past.
Lauri Lumby provides education and support for the midlife journey through one-on-one mentoring, classes and workshops. You can reach Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or firstname.lastname@example.org for more information or to set up an appointment.