Dealing with Symptoms of Menopause in Midlife

Dealing with Symptoms of Menopause in Midlife

Menopause and perimenopause in midlife come with a host of physical, mental and emotional symptoms which some are tempted to label as disease.  Menopause and perimenopause in midlife are not a disease.  And you are NOT going crazy, you’re just trying to be born.  

menopause in midlife

menopause in midlife

Dealing with symptoms of menopause in midlife

Menopause is not a disease and yet, psychology, counseling and doctors’ offices are full of women between the ages of 30 and 70 who are looking for relief of symptoms that are uncomfortable and that someone (including their inner critic) told them were bad:  anxiety, depression, panic, hot flashes, death chills, tremors, headaches, belly aches, body aches and the dreaded of all dreaded symptoms :  MOOD SWINGS.  Often (but fortunately not always) the Western medical system’s response to these symptoms is to support the myth that because we are experiencing these symptoms, there is something wrong with us – something worthy of medication, hospitalization and sometimes invasive surgeries to remove the offending female parts.

Dealing with symptoms of menopause in midlife

What someone forgot to tell us is that midlife, menopause and perimenopause are NOT  pathologies.  These symptoms that we are experiencing are not bad, neither do they signal that something is wrong with us.  Instead, what these symptoms are letting us know is that there is something VERY RIGHT going on and something that promises to bring us something incredibly wonderful.   The something wonderful that these symptoms are bringing us to is OURSELF!  Midlife is the process through which the hormones in our bodies shift from their focus on birthing babies to the very sacred process of BIRTHING OURSELVES!

Dealing with emotions in midlife and menopause

The greatest medicine you can give yourself as you traverse the path of midlife, menopause and menopause is to make friends with all the changes that are going on in your body, your mind and your emotions.  The emotional changes of perimenopause and menopause, especially, are there to WAKE YOU UP.   As women, we have been socialized to believe that in order to be loved, we have to be pleasing, gentle, kind, agreeable, cooperative, submissive, quiet and peaceful.  During the childbearing years, the special mix of hormones in our body creates a veil.  This veil holds our truth in check and allows us to set our own hopes, dreams, visions, passions and needs on the shelf where they gather dust waiting for everyone else’s needs to be met.  The catch is that our truth is not really being held at bay, it is just gathering resentment for being silenced and our hopes and dreams that are gathering dust are seething in frustration and impatience because they know that the needs of others will never be fully satisfied.  So when our children are viable and the hormonal mix begins to shift, the veil tumbles to the ground and the shelf holding our dreams collapses.  In this upheaval, all the emotions that we have held at bay suddenly come crashing in.  The invitation in midlife is to let those emotions in….to make friends with them….to allow them to lead you to your truth and to the woman you are called to be post-childbearing.  The treasure that awaits you in midlife when you embrace these changes and allow them to carry you is the discovery of your uniquely creative gifts and the way in which you are called to share these gifts in service to the world and which will give you the fulfillment, peace, joy and compassion that you seek.

Support for perimenopause and menopause in midlife

The good news is that you do not need to accomplish the journey of midlife on your own.  I provide support for women ( and men) in the midlife journey through one-on-one mentoring (call (920) 230-1313 to set up an appointment or email, through my most recently published book, Returning – a woman’s midlife journey to herself, and through my upcoming course, Surviving Midlife. 

About Your Spiritual Truth

I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!
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One Response to Dealing with Symptoms of Menopause in Midlife

  1. tlchurcher says:

    I have to say everything you have written about this stage of life I can relate to. I was in my late 30’s when I began going through all this. Nobody ever told me that what I was wanting was to give birth to myself. I realized it when I found myself literally trying to give birth every time I got in the shower and knew intuitively that was what it was. You are the first person I read that uses this exact phrase. I had to discover how to go about doing this on my own but I really wished I had the guidance that you offer. If this ever becomes a book, I will definitely buy!

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