The human journey is a continual process of changing and growing – a cyclical process of dying and birthing – letting go of that which no longer serves us and making room for the new life that wants to be made known through us. These life changes are often accompanied by feelings of discontent, boredom, loneliness, anxiety, depression and even despair. How do we know our life is ready for the next cycle of change and what do we do about it?
The Constant Process of Birthing Ourselves
Life is a continual process of birthing ourselves. Beginning with the moment our father’s sperm meets our mother’s egg, life consists of a constant process of evolution, growth and change. And change does not cease once we reach our full height sometime during adolescence or because we achieved certain milestones like graduating high school or college. In fact, I sometimes think that once we reach “adulthood,” our growth accelerates – especially at significant times such as marriage, childbirth, midlife and elderhood – we just do a really good job of resisting or altogether ignoring the continual unfoldment necessary for Soul.
Soul is the uniquely creative way in which we have been gifted to find meaning and purpose in our lives and the way in which we are gifted to contribute to the betterment of the world. As we move through the journey of life, Soul desires to reveal itself in deeper, more meaningful and more expansive ways. Soul is never done revealing itself…..if we let it. Unfortunately, we tend to spend more time resisting or ignoring Soul than allowing it to be born. Fortunately, the desire of the Soul is greater than any resistance we could throw at it and it will persist in trying to be born…or die trying. Yes, we can ignore and even deny the continual revelation of our Soul…even to the point of the Soul’s “death” (the Soul never really dies it will just feel that way) but the harder we resist the more uncomfortable things will become.
Heralding the Soul
While the birthing of the Soul is a deeply spiritual and mysterious process, its effects will be felt on both an emotional and physical level. Soul, when it is ready to be done with a current phase of our life and is preparing to move to the next more expansive, more fulfilling state, starts to get restless, and we along with it. Restlessness, discontent, boredom, are all feelings there to alert us to the Soul preparing for its next stage of unfoldment. As the restlessness sets in, anxiety is sure to follow as our very human fear of change begins to resist the Soul….knowing that if Soul is ready to be born anew, that something will have to die or be set aside. Like the plant that must die in order that it can reseed and be born anew, part of what we have known our life to be will need to pass away in order to make room for something new. If we acknowledge this anxiety for what it is, identify what it is that is calling for release, grieve the loss and let it go, then we can gently surrender to the new opportunities Soul is promising for us. If, however, we resist the call of the Soul and continue to resist it, then all hell breaks loose. Resistance to Soul is known by feelings of profound anxiety, panic, debilitating despair and depression. And if we further resist the birth of Soul, sensations move beyond our emotions and take root in our body through physical pain and even disease. Chronic pain, fibromyalgia, digestive issues, panic attacks, auto-immune disease, are all thought to be related to resistance to Soul. (Birthing the Soul also means naming, claiming, standing up for all of our truths….especially the ones we’d rather forget or keep hidden). The harder we work to resist our Soul (and our truths), the more drastic measures Soul/Truth will engage to try to get our attention.
Surrender to Soul
To alleviate the discomfort associated with the transitions of Soul, we only need to do one thing. LET OUR SOUL BE BORN! When we GET OUT OF THE WAY and SURRENDER to the Soul as it is trying to be born, we are relieved of the pain that accompanies the Soul’s transition. Like labor, the birth of the Soul is never pain free, but when we surrender to the process, accept loving support from family, friends and professionals, we are able to move through the transition in a smoother and easier way. When we acknowledge that which needs to be released in order to make room for the new and grieve that loss, when we employ effective tools for moving through our own fear and resistance to the new life that is not yet known, then we find grace and ease in the process of the Soul’s birthing. And, like the birth of a child, when we allow Soul to be born, we are rewarded in greater and more miraculous ways than we ever could have imagined before.
For assistance and support in the transitions of birthing your Soul, contact Lauri Lumby at (920) 230-1313 or firstname.lastname@example.org.