Longing for Connectedness

Continuing the exploration of my new mission statement:  Through compassionate listening and attentive presence, I partner with those longing for meaning, purpose and connectedness.  Today we are exploring the very human need for connectedness. 

No Man is an Island

While as individual human beings we may be able to live alone, as a species we can only thrive when we live in community.  As such, within us is a biological drive to connect.  This drive to connect helps us to find safety and security and to benefit from the individual gifts of the participants in our community.  In other words, being in community serves our survival needs, but even beyond that, we are stronger as a species.  Then there’s the whole continuation of the species thing….but we’ll leave that for another blog.  Today’s blog is about our instinctual and spiritual drive to connect….to find community…..to gather in packs, tribes, churches……to find people of like-mind….and to find a way to honor the diversity on a planet of 7 billion people!

Spiritual Direction provides the foundational resources to help us find our connnectedness.  Call Lauri today (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.com to schedule your appointment today.

Life as an Example

I feel a little bit like “Everyman” when I explore my own search for connection.  As would be the case for most, my first experiences of connection came through my family of origin.  This is where I was born….so this is where I belonged.  Right?  Sometimes.  While I always knew love and support and that there was no question about my membership in this family, and that there was and is a deep well of unconditional love present there, somewhere in my journey, I became aware that I was completely UNLIKE some of the members of my family.  Temperments.  Beliefs.  Passions.  Gifts.  Drives, varied from person to person, and there were days I wondered, “What planet did I come from and who dropped me here because something feels very foreign.”  (For the record, I’m sure my parents have often wondered about this strange child that was born into their life!) I had the same experience with church.  More than anything else, the Catholic Church is a tribe.  You are born there.  Baptized there. Formed there.  Married there and presumably buried there.  You are accepted…..as long as you stay within the lines.  Here’s where I got/get in trouble.  From a very early age, I questioned some of the teachings and practices wondering, “Is this really how Jesus would respond?”  Often, the answer that came to me was “NO WAY” and I wondered:  How did I get here?  Do I really belong here?  Can I stay here?  More pointedly, Will they let me stay here?   Then there is the whole friend thing…..as we meander through this journey of life we wonder, “Who and where are my peeps….the people that feel like home, the think like me, that have the same values, goals, passions, drives, etc etc. etc.”

Spiritual Direction provides the foundational resources to help us find our connnectedness.  Call Lauri today (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.com to schedule your appointment today.

Connections

I suspect that my journey to find connections is not unlike your own journey.  Trying to find the people with whom we feel resonance and with whom we can provide mutual honoring, support, understanding and acceptance.  As a species, when we feel that we belong, that we have found our peeps, we feel safe and the ground below us feels ready to accept, nurture and grow our gifts.  When we feel we belong, we are able to thrive.  This can be a tricky road, however, because at what cost are we willing to say we belong?  Sometimes, as we grow in self-awareness, the “tribe” to which we belong no longer fits and in order to continue our growth and in order to thrive again, we have to give up this tribe in search of the next tribe that will support who we are.  This is a scary thing because the “tribe” provides “safety” and “security” and in order to really grow, we have to find a new nest.  YIKES.  And the search for connection begins again.  Then kind of like dating (yuk), we have to try on lots of different “belonging” hats until we find the one that fits.  In order to find the belonging hat that fits, however, we have to know ourselves…..and that brings us back to our search for meaning and purpose.

Spiritual Direction provides the foundational resources to help us find our connnectedness.  Call Lauri today (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.com to schedule your appointment today.

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

About Your Spiritual Truth

I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!
This entry was posted in Being Human, Inspiration and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.