School’s Out For Summer!

The last day of school is just one of the many transitions we face in our lives.  How do we negotiate the frequent changes in our lives without completely losing our minds? 

Bye Bye Elementary School

This morning I dropped my baby off for his last day of Elementary school.  Holy Cow!  How did that happen so fast?  Wil is still the little Buddha baby sitting content and satisfied in his baby swing.  And then there’s Maggie.  Today, in her final day of 7th grade, wanted to get all dressed up, have her hair done and put on makeup.  What happened to the little girl with the flowery dress dancing in the bubbles?  Transition….that’s what happened!  (and NO….it is not just me getting old….I’m still the Stevie Nicks wannabe in the black lace dress with platform boots wailing out “Edge of Seventeen!  I Swear!)

The Wheel Keeps on Turning

Other than death and taxes, there is one other certainty in life….and that is CHANGE!  Change, transition, movement is the one constant thing that we can expect out of life.  The problem is that we are not really comfortable with change.  Change means loss…it means the death of something….and this loss causes us anxiety, fear, worry.  We become used to something, to a certain routine, to certain relationships….then suddenly….THEY CHANGE!  Kids grow up.  Parents age.  We age.  Jobs end.  Relationships die and/or change.  Life is a constant flow of change, change, change.  The good news is that while these changes do cause us trepidation, there are graceful ways to move through life’s transitions and not completely lose our minds. 

To Everything Turn Turn Turn

Since change is one of the three certain things in our lives, it might be helpful to explore some tools that help us to find peace in the midst of change. 

1) Acknowledge the change….the loss…the death.  Look at it.  Observe it for what it is.  Admit that it is real.  My son is now 11 and leaving elementary school behind.  My daughter wants to look good for the last day of school. 

2) Take time to appreciate the good things of the past that led to this change.  For example, this morning I took time to reflect back on my children as babies, toddlers, young children and remembered all the great things that have led them to where they are today.

3)  Recognize change as a kind of death….a loss of sorts. 

4) Give yourself permission to grieve that loss.  Oh yes….I will be shedding some tears at Wil’s awards ceremony later this morning.

5) Take a DEEP BREATH.  Breathe some more.  And breathe again.

6) Be open to the new life that will come as a result of this transition.  For Wil, I look forward to his time in Middle school.   He has been emotionally ready for some time….now he will get a chance to shine on a whole new level.  Maggie…..well, it is Middle School….a time of “dangerous opportunities.”  For her….I will just BREATHE and hold a space for her to become who she needs to be.

Time Keeps on Tickin Tickin Tickin into the Future

What more can I say?  Life is change.  Period.  I’m just grateful for the spiritual tools and practices that I have learned along the way which help me (the recovering compulsive planner and control freak who craves safety, security, predictability and surety) to navigate the waters of what now seems to be a daily occurrance.  Change is here to stay…so I’d better get used to it!

How do you deal with transition?

What are some effective tools you have discovered that help provide support during times of transition?

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

About Your Spiritual Truth

I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!
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3 Responses to School’s Out For Summer!

  1. The Stages Of Me
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  2. Hello Lauri ~
    Sorry it has taken me a bit to respond. I was in the hospital for a quick visit due to an aspiration pneumonia. I am recovering nicely but it did pack a punch. I hope you will understand my situation. Where I do find your blog beautiful and insightful as well as coming from a place of wellness, searching and healing, it is a bit out of step with my Christian belief and statements of my faith. Now I am open minded and not a big fan of religion. I am truly a believer in a Christ centered life and one faith in relationship with my Father in heaven.. I am however set to some more specific bible teachings. I teach Sunday school, and raise my family in these statements of faith. Now while I question some legalisms of organized religion it is a good guideline in an imperfect world. I appreciate your passion and searching for more specific outreach in understanding and your personal walk. And I do hope you will not judge me for my decision, but I must decline to share a link as I do believe in Jesus His only Son, I believe He died for me and by His cross and shedding of His blood my sins of the flesh are washed away and I will be with him in heaven if I maintain a life centered in Christ attempting to get it together. My beliefs are specific I realize and I am by no means discounting yours. I am sure your work brings great comfort and joy and healing to so many. God has chosen you to share these gifts. I hope you do not consider me a holy roller or Christian who would turn anyone or belief system away. I do come from a place of love. I greatly respect your work and many parts of it I am so very much on board with. I reach out to people of all faiths as well and want to help those hurting or in need of some uplifting. I would never attack someone personally and I am a life learner. I would share a stage or conference discussion with you in a heartbeat. Sadly to share a link from my site to yours would contradict my belief statements at times. Between you and I that would be an open minded discussion, but for my readers that would go against the Bible teachings I hold dear to my heart. I assure you I am aware that declining the opportunity to share our information together is probably a serious marketing mistake but one my heart is touchy about. I am sure you will way surpass me in life and I wish you beautiful continued success. I appreciate you asking. My book in itself is non denominational, it is about trials all trials and life and love and faith and God and in all that I am sure we would agree, but Jesus is my number one guy. Best to you always and I will share your site with other Thanks so much for the opportunity ~ Kathy

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