Today, I pose a question to my readers: Is the idea of a soulmate real or simply a figment of our over-romanticized imaginations? Inquiring minds want to know!
Dreams of a Soulmate
Several years ago during a guided visualization exercise I had an encounter with a male figure that in the visualization could only be described as “the love of my life.” Since that visualization exercise, this “man” has haunted my dreams, shown up in my prayer and meditation. Of course, the first impulse is to become attached to this phantom as some sort of soulmate that has not yet appeared in my life and to go out looking for this handsome prince who will be the answer to all my unmet needs. Fortunately, I think I know better. But what is the meaning behind this portent? What is a soulmate anyway and do soulmates even exist? In this I admit complete and total ignorance and turn to you, the reader for your thoughts on this topic. Just to get the discussion rolling….here are a few of my own thoughts:
Points to Ponder
Looking back on the years of dreams and the visualization that got this all started in the first place, a few thoughts come to mind.
- Modern day psychology would invite me to look at the visualization/dream as a representation of the unhealed wounds within myself seeking to be healed, specifically, the parts of myself that need to be passionately and adoringly loved without condition.
- Christian mysticism would suggest that the “man” in the dream is Christ calling me to be his “beloved.” I am actually somewhat inclined to at least partially accept this idea, especially since the dude in the dream bore an uncanny resemblance to “Hot Jesus” (see below!)
- New-agists would tell me the vision was of my soulmate and to keep on looking.
Now, here is where I get hung up…and bear with me as I might ramble a bit. Enlightenment Philosophies (to which I tend to subscribe, and a category under which Authentic Freedom falls) tell us that the only source of fulfillment is within. As such, there would be no such thing as a relationship that provides the kind of fulfillment that we ascribe to the idea of a soulmate. However, there is also something to the idea of our outer world reflecting our inner world. AND we ARE relational beings. I have observed that as I grow spiritually and emotionally and find a deeper place of inner contentment that my exterior relationships tend to more closely reflect the “new me” (actually, the original me!). So, why wouldn’t our intentional, one-on-one intimate relationships afford us the same possibility?
The invitation seems to be to start within – to do the work of healing our inner wounds, to work toward a deeper sense of inner contentment and fulfillment. Then, I wonder, when we do this work, are we then creating the ground upon which mutually supportive and fulfilling external relationships may take root and grow and is it possible that we might connect with a uniquely intimate relationship that reflects the contentment we feel within? I’m just wondering……
The Goal is No Goal and No Attachment to Outcome
Here is the rub……we cannot enter into the journey of enlightenment with the goal of meeting a soulmate or with an attachment that if we do the right work the soulmate will be our reward. We enter into the journey simply for the purpose of the journey….. I guess if the soulmate shows up, it is simply another thing for which we can be grateful!
Tell me your ideas about soulmate! Lets get the discussion ball rolling!!!!
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